Asking ourselves questions about sex, desire, fears and our feelings helps us reveal and reflect.
Take a look at these questions below. You might like to journal, writing these down in a special book, for you to continue exploring. Or perhaps you prefer to write a quick question on a scrap of paper then toss it out. Or even ponder a question in the shower. If you’re feeling courageous, work through each prompt from top to bottom. Or look through for those that pique your interest.
- How do I define sexual pleasure for myself?
- What are my favorite ways to feel connected to my body? Do I give myself time to explore these? What obstacles are preventing me from connecting to my body?
- How does sexual intimacy fit into my overall sense of well-being?
- What types of touch or sensations feel most pleasurable to me?
- Are there any societal or cultural beliefs about sex that I’ve internalised? How do they affect me?
- How does shame around sex show up in my life, and how can I work to release it?
- What fantasies do I have, and how do they make me feel?
- How comfortable am I with my naked body? What can I do to embrace it more fully?
- What are my earliest memories of feeling curious about sex and intimacy?
- What does sexual empowerment look like to me?
- How do I define sexual boundaries, and how do I express them?
- What is the relationship between my emotions and my sexual desires?
- How do I feel about self-pleasure or masturbation? What are my thoughts about its role in my life?
- Are there parts of my body that I’ve felt insecure about during sex – either alone or with others? How can I cultivate acceptance?
- How does my past influence my current sexual behaviors or desires?
- What activities help me feel sensual, apart from sex?
- How do I balance the needs for sexual exploration and emotional safety?
- Are there any kinks or fetishes I’m curious about exploring? How do they make me feel?
- What are the ways I can honor my body and its needs daily?
- How has my understanding of my sexual orientation evolved over time?
- What role does spontaneity play in my sexual experiences?
- How can I ensure that my sexual practices align with my personal values?
- What does it mean to me to be sexually confident?
- What impact does pornography have on my sexual self-image or expectations?
- In what ways do I give myself permission to explore my desires?
- How comfortable am I with experimenting with toys, tools, or props during sex?
- What steps can I take to become more sexually literate or informed?
- How do stress or anxiety influence my sexual desires?
- How do I feel about exploring slow, mindful sex versus fast, passionate encounters?
- How do my sexual desires change with different phases of my life or mood?
- How can I improve my sense of trust and safety in sexual relationships?
- How do I explore my fantasies safely and ethically?
- What kind of sexual energy do I feel most drawn to – playful, romantic, intense, etc.?
- How can I create a sexual environment that feels sacred and special to me?
- How do I feel about the relationship between sex and love?
- Do I always need one with the other?
- How do I practice gratitude for my sexual body and its experiences?
- What role does humor play in my sexual experiences?
- How do I feel about self-acceptance and body image in my sexual life?
- How do I handle periods of sexual dry spells or low libido?
- What’s my relationship with sexual fantasies that I might not want to act on? How do I feel about them?
- How do I develop a practice of sexual self-care?
- How do I define sexual liberation for myself, and how does it feel in my body?
- How can I embrace sexual playfulness as I age?
- What does it mean to be sexually autonomous, and how can I nurture that within myself?
- What kinds of activities can I explore that deepen intimacy without leading to sex?
- How can I better understand my body’s signals for when I want sex and when I don’t?
- How can I integrate self-love practices into my sexual experiences?
- How do I feel about setting goals for sexual growth or experiences?
Would you like to talk about some of these questions or answers with me? Let’s connect.